I started uni in Feb, 2 hours by plane from where i live, and i'm staying in a hostel with 500 people who i didn't know before coming.

i've never been the shy type. or the self conscious type. i've never been the type to get stressed..

But since coming, i've been feeling like an outsider, everyone's made their friends, and i don't at all feel like i'm part of a group. i always worry about who i'm going to sit with for lunch and dinner, and although there's always people i know who are eating, i don't feel i've gotten close enough with anyone for them to think, 'hmm, i wonder where she is today'.

it's kinda going in a cycle - because of this, i'm feeling even more insecure and held back, so never know what to say, and can't open up to people, which is making it even harder to fit in.

i'm just feeling lonely, and kind of like if i wasn't here no one would notice.

I've never felt like this before, i've always been confident, high self esteem etc.

i don't know what i want you to say, i just felt i wanted to tell someone. its really getting to me.

people on my floor of the hostel are all realllly close now, and two of them really can't stand me, not sure why. I mean, you can't expect everyone to love you, but i don't understand their dirty looks everytime i open my mouth.

i just, agh. i think i'm homesick, but i'm not. i don't know what's going on. i just have trouble making the effort to make friends atm, i don't know what's up.

AGH. i DONT KNOW! :S

they would all be willing to make new friends so at the dinnertable ask if you can pull up a seat, introduce yourself and say a few funny acedotes and mingle.

antisocial behaviour can come from a lack of exercise

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clicky

if you mean physical exercise, i do a lot of that...

I go with the flow, self-esteem is to the point of narcissism really, and high school was a stress free zone.

Then you come to uni, you know no-one, everything is multitudinously harder and it is just like, well FUCK!

As for friends, I suggest going up to people who you think are nice and ask them to explain some uni course work to you. Then get into a bit of a convo and tell them to come over play some games, go out for a drink whatever it is you do.

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I am the same as you.

I go with the flow, self-esteem is to the point of narcissism really, and high school was a stress free zone.

Then you come to uni, you know no-one, everything is multitudinously harder and it is just like, well FUCK!

As for friends, I suggest going up to people who you think are nice and ask them to explain some uni course work to you. Then get into a bit of a convo and tell them to come over play some games, go out for a drink whatever it is you do.

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i found the whole uni thing significantly easier than highschool

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it'll help with the course work too, i'm finding it soo hard.

i think the main thing that's really making me upset and hurting my self-esteem is the b*tches on my floor who treat me like im an absolute loser who doesn't belong.
i mean, friends of mine think they're a really unfriendly bunch, but i just have to shrug my shoulders and say, they're alright, so it doesn't sound like i'm having problems with them.
i want to confront them but a) i don't have the courage, and b) i know everyone will go more against me.

i guess the main comfort is that i know in time i'll make friends, because it probably takes me a while to open up to people.

but for the moment its really upsetting.